When I fall in love, I fall in love completely.

It doesn't always happen right away, but often it does.

I fall in love completely, and there is nowhere to go from there, nothing to get except relief.

I give my love to get relief from the buildup of love in my system.

Falling in love with someone to me means that I adore them, admire them, appreciate them, and I desire that their will for themselves be done.

I desire to see them in their power, choice, and freedom at all times and I desire for every thing they desire to fruit for them.

I desire to know what they will for me to know, and I desire for them to keep their privacy.

I desire to share time together that we both desire to be sharing, and I desire to peacefully long for what my infinite insatiable imagination can baselessly demand of finite reality.

I desire to support their nourishment and their integrity in living the life that they've chosen for themselves, and I desire to practice trust that they are doing so.

Being in love with someone means I respect their value systems and honor them. If I want to change someone's value system or behavior, I know that to be something other than love. I think of it as misalignment, and my attention is for what is aligned.

Being in love with someone means I support their confidence in their choices and in themselves as a choicemaker. I consider it to be disrespect to undermine their choices or self-concept, especially with my own imagined expectations.

Being in love with someone is a matter of the body, the way I feel a warm glow in their presence, a resonance in their words, an ease in the pattern of our closeness and distance on every fractal. Trying to adjust the pattern of closeness and distance is CONTROL, which is alienating to generosity and collaboration, and therefore outside of love.

When I fall in love, it is LOVE. It's not attachment to a form of relationship or an outcome I can imagine. It's a commitment to the moment to moment unfolding of what is between us—what can never be known until it's right here and now.