Being With

What how do we explain relateful? How is it different than Authentic relating, circling and T Group? 

Back story, Circle Anywhere- Relateful have changed my life in ways -no other tools has ever come close... AND I CAN't ARTICULATE how and why!

One way it makes sense to me is that through relateful practices - learned to separate from the story by noticing present based things such as sensations, connections to other etc..  

So when explaining to others who are suffering in life and want change but haven't heard of relateful.. Words can not cover my life changing experiences.  Closest at the moment is disccusing how i learned how to be with anger instead of BEING angry. 

BUT - YES AND - does that land with people who don't do relateful or circling and have never heard of authentic relating etc.  

There are layers and many ways this practice create lasting positive change.  I know from personal experience it works, but what is the IT?!!!

Staying at the level of sensation is a great tool for staying in present moment, but also, by doing so, it creates the habit of noticing what is happening in the body when the nervous system in dis-regulated.  This habit of noticing, on top of the practice in a group - of being with emotional disregulation/anger - being asked "what's that like" and having the opportunity to explain how anger feels - little tiny knives attempting to exit the skin from within to the the outside = painful physically.  

This pause - checking the sensations - NOT going into the "why am i angry" seems to be a huge life changing piece of the puzzle.  As anger arises, noticing the sensations and letting the story of the anger take a back seat - now there is agency on acting out the anger.  The anger doesn't take me away on a journey of dissipating the energy by taking it out on others.   I do still get angry, but how i express it is changed.   It's like being with anger instead of BEING ANGRY!

AND THAT IS JUST ONE OF MANY STORIES - can do similar with shame, with self hate, with so much more.

BUT HOW DO I SHARE THIS WITH OTHERS?  

Would love to know!