I've been experimenting lately with refusing to explain in relationship.
I was raised by a lawyer and legal assistant and in the context of my upbringing being able to explain myself and my experience/emotions/etc (and implicitly justify myself) was my ticket to my experiences/emotions/etc being received as valid, worthy of care and attention, and so on.
I have a hunch that this taught me to collude to manipulate/be manipulated by the habit/expectation of explanation - the implicit currency of justification seems possibly insidious and so far, since I've experimented with abstaining from it, otherwise unnecessary.
#quicktakes