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Daily Alchemy: a question to think on together
“Think of someone who sees you one way, like a parent, a partner, or a friend. What do you keep hidden from them, and is that protecting the bond or quietly thinning it?”
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The Pathology of Ungrounded Development
One of the ways psychological development can become pathological is if the current primary level from which a person operates isn’t grounded in skillful integration of the previous level.... - annabeth...
I Don't Have To
I’ve had an intellectual understanding that I don’t have to do things, but I’ve recently realized that it was tethered to old beliefs. "I don’t have to visit my grandmother if I’m willing to be a bad granddaughter/bad person." or "I don’t have to buy my friend a birthday present... Emotional Processing is NOT a Healthy Relationship Practice
You may know that I am not about verbal emotional processing. I define this as “speaking about the issues between us while they’re happening.” It can also apply to clearing old resentments or revealing withheld hurt.... On Things I Loved That I Dropped
In a workshop I attended several days ago, everyone ended up sharing, one-by-one, about their experience or relationship with the subject of God (with a capital "G").... - Sara Schultz...
Our Experience of Gender is Caught in a Drama Triangle
My contribution to the #DeepTakes event is an experience I find really alienating and lonely on a personal level and I see it playing out culturally in a way that seems to impact everyone I know (and obviously huge swaths of people I don't).To express what I am seeing in this... - nat...
The pressure to be thoughtful
It’s an interesting thing - this feeling that I need to post something thoughtful here. I’m feeling tension emerge in my abdomen. There’s a belief that there’s a right and a wrong way to engage in this community with no clarity on what is right or wrong.... Today I reunited with my Jungian therapist after his two-month absence.
Today I reunited with the Jungian analyst, R., who I’ve been working with since October. The two-week absence that he had planned in mid-April stretched into six weeks when his spouse had a major medical event overseas.... How relationships cultivate Who I Want To Be
I have this thing consistently happen in romantic relationships about 10 months in… I find myself doing a full inventory of if my partner is helping me become who I want to be. What am I training myself to do in this connection?... Sharing controversial take can actually lead to a better world
Most of social media today rewards bold claims—but not the process of refining them. The more you double down, the more attention you get. But I want a world where people can share strong opinions in order to refine them, not just defend them.... This reminds me of a conversation I recently had where a few layers down they realized they were afraid of being a terrible person and dying alone. And I was like, excellent, it sounds like making peace with being a terrible person and dying alone will free up a lot of energy for... - annabeth...
I don't think I play fair on here
I look at who wrote things before I start reading and I read through the lens of my pre-existing opinion of them. I just noticed it a few minutes ago, and tried to read a comment without doing it. Something in my brain was screaming "But how do I file this info??... Why having kids is bonkers (if you’re addicted to comfort)
Hot take: If your life is all about chasing pleasure, getting the newest shiny thing, and looking for your next dopamine hit, then yeh – having kids is nuts. They’re messy, noisy, and they’ll likely ruin your dreams of becoming a social media influencer.... - Benzi...
That John C. Reilly clip felt too clean
I've been seeing this interview with John C Reilly going viral and was touched by it myself. Fuck yea, empathy matters so much! Let's love and care for our fellow man.... Some Thoughts on Boundaries
Boundaries are mine. My portals to connection. They’re statements of fact: “whoops, I’m sorry, it turns out I can’t love from here anymore.” The purest form doesn’t require anyone else to uphold. I can say “no” to a party I don’t want to go to.... - Shera JoyCry...
Awareness of Awareness rambling thoughts
What keeps me up at night or what entertains me when other reasons (hormones, sugar, light/sound, etc.) keep me up at night is thinking bout awareness and what is aware of the thinking.... What's it like to post? Let's note!
When I ask myself the question, "What am I afraid of?", all I notice is the non-verbal sensation. "So, why not name that?", I ask myself again. I sense space and a "yes". So, this is what I notice.... Monogamy v polyamory
Is monogamy better? Is poly better? Is there an overall norm for people, with exceptions? Is it totally pluralistic? Here are some points for monogamy, with some counter points, to convey some of my uncertainty but nevertheless leaning into what I’ve chosen: Point: I don’t know a... - annabeth...
Could it be ethically ok to not vote?
note: I posted this two hours before Biden stepped down. It’s possible that a different Dem candidate could change my choices, but my overall perspective feels the same.... - renee...
My therapist says...
if you have a disorder (I’d call this an undesired response + occurring regularly), don’t apply any strategies, any self-regulating methods to meet the stimulus. Don’t try to lower the fear. Any safety strategies will likely keep it in place.... - sness...
Hello! And a question on measuring the quality of a connection
Hi Uptrusters! Sara here, joining for the conversations (debates? connections? community?) and because I’ve been frothing to see the inside of this platform ever since Jordan told me about it 🤤....