Thoughts on the aftermath of trauma

Anyone dealt with the severe trauma that comes from either childhood neglect and/or domestic violence? Nobody talks about the effects it begins to have once you enter into a new, healthy relationship. Something that is foreign territory and unknown to some. What about when this new person uses tough love to make you face your inner demons and traumas? Perhaps with little to no empathy or understanding of the severity of your own mind... am I alone in this one?