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Daily Alchemy: a question to think on together
“When someone in your family keeps doing something that hurts you, what makes you stay quiet versus finally say something?”
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- annabeth...
I Don't Have To
I’ve had an intellectual understanding that I don’t have to do things, but I’ve recently realized that it was tethered to old beliefs. "I don’t have to visit my grandmother if I’m willing to be a bad granddaughter/bad person." or "I don’t have to buy my friend a birthday present... - annabeth...
How to do the basics when your life feels like a dumpster fire?
I’m working through some super deep shit in therapy right now. I found out that my dad is a diagnosed Covert Vulnerable Narcissist and I’m going back through all the memories in which I have him filed in my mind as a victim and looking through what I now know reality to be.... - annabeth...
I’m reading the hyper-christian boundaries book right now and was noodling on the concepts in the shower yesterday, and I started really resonating with the concept of "reckoning." The accounting version of the word. Putting my expenses next to my income and looking at reality.... - Philip...
I really like this approach to parenting, and it’s definitely the spirit that Liz and I have brought to parenting our son. That being said, I’m finding lately that my son benefits a lot when I bring a stronger boundary-setting presence than I usually do.... Man my heart breaks for you hearing this. To feel like you’re honestly answering a question and be blindsided by such fury and judgement must have felt like a betrayal, and a deep invalidation. Like c’mon, what was she thinking?! That you can make yourself feel a different way?... - annabeth...
I’m pretty sure I was at the meeting you’re talking about, seems fun to look at it from this angle, and I have theories. For most of that meeting we felt to me like we were in an estended-family-playing-games-together vibe of playfulness, which in my family has a lot of jumping... It sounds really good, and it sounds like it’s had good effects on you! I personally very rarely feel envy (or jealousy). It’s possible that’s because I was so thoroughly encouraged and told that I could have whatever I want as a child, given I’m willing to put in the effort to... I loved your ideas, Nithya. I dread going to marriages, as I already have a preconceived notion that it’s going to be a tense, morose affair. And this notion has been built basis the few that I have witnessed.... - annabeth...
for Presidential stuff, I’m quite selective on who I feel safe enough to share this perspective with me too! Even with my sister and parents, whom I used to talk about politics pretty openly with, I just don’t really go into it anymore.... - onWhat are some of your uncertainties? Experiences of failure (that maybe you still haven't turned into learnings yet?) Obvious realizations?by
Impossible premises, perfectionism, and nothing to forgive 🤦 The other night I got so angry at my kids; they would not go to sleep. “Shh, no more talking,” I whisper to Jack.... - KC2sunshine...
I really hate to say it, but ever since Trump was elected in 2016, i've had to take the fight and enrage options, but only because I had no other choices. have a strained relationship with my Father-in-Law at best when it comes to this topic.... This is an interesting topic — one I’ve wrestled with for many years. Over time, I’ve learned something important: I can’t change the world’s problems, and the world isn’t obligated to care about me.... - Love...
Hello! 🤗 I'm curious to check out this platform. Currently, I've been investigating and participating in all the new platforms and apps that our children are participating in. I feel that like this is the best way forward for me.... Thirteen Year Old Executes His Sister in Her Bed to Punish Their Mother for Life
His mother wrote a book detailing her experiences and the loss of her daughter. She maintained some contact with Paris for years in an effort to hold onto what remained of her family.... My personal experiences with addiction have been painful and complicated. My mother, who is now deceased, was a pedophile. Later in life, my husband struggled with video game addiction, though he eventually recovered. Well, I struggled more than he did!... I’m mainly curious about how people react to this modeling of anger. I have a relationship with anger that started from fear of my father’s anger and transformed through relating to my own anger (especially in sports)....