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Daily Alchemy: a question to think on together
“When did you last change your behavior because you assumed someone expected it, and were you right?”
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- Fooljeff...
How easily we join in the mockin' chorus even when our own experience tells us a different story. How we ignore that fuckin' stab of conscience, that whisper that says, "This ain't right." We do it to belong, to seem worldly, to avoid confrontin' our own insecurities.... I honestly don’t have any hopes/wishes for social media, as it is doing what it does the best, and with that arise huge advantages and myriad consequences.... thanks for sharing this. I don’t know almost anything about Indian politics so having this personal connection with y’all makes it more meaningful to learn. It’s amazing and a little sad the human propensity to create these "us versus them" divides.... Thanks—I resonate with so much of this, including the feeling on UpTrust, and wanting to let people know I've read and appreciated their comments even when I don't want to add a comment.... Hi Dara! It basically says that we get too attached to our idiosyncratic notions and we tend to put down other people who share a similar point of view but disagree on some details.... One thing I notice about Circling, if person A offers person B something, person A is (at least culturally) more likely to ask, "What's underneath it for you?", as if they're asking, "What's this cocaine cut with?" It's rarely believed in Circling if the underneath isn't... - Shane.Orton...
The people that need to hear it aren't listening
I was at one of these intentional events where people make requests of each other and had to sit through a 30 minute speech about how to hear someone say no and not pressure them to say yes.... Point: I don’t know a single polyamorous couple that’s lasted more than a decade, whereas I know a ton of lifelong monogamous couples. I don’t think this is true- you do know polyamorous couples that have lasted more than a decade.... - annabeth...
I think it’s a few things: Green’s obsessive inclusivity makes it allergic to anything that creates any sense of separation and or better/worse between humans (except the humans who are better/worse-ing people) Orange’s use of grades in educational systems is often wielded by... - stephen...
- dave...
Heh - I nearly outed myself re "some part of me keeps wanting to worry about microplastics / BPAs / etc… but other parts of me don’t seem willing to sit down and do the maths". I think I held back because I didn’t want to risk spreading the worry?... - annabeth...
- dave...
Hi! The first thing that jumps out at me is some half-remembered result, which was something like: people tend to thrive more and endorse their decisions and lives more in retrospect when they prioritise "meaning" rather than "happiness".... - Fooljeff...
The most insidious part of this Triangle is how it robs people of their complexity. I've known whores with more moral authority than preachers, and supposedly upstandin' men who'd sell their own mothers for a claim....