Alignment demands the death of all unaligned realities. Finding the perfect job costs the one thatâs good enough. Letting go of a partnership that isnât quite right means mourning the future you imagined inhabiting together. Stopping a sport that you keep getting injured playing means realizing that joy is no longer available to you, and maybe hasnât been for a while.
Many times weâre grieving not only the future dreams that wonât come to be, the present attachments that weâre releasing back to the void, but the past we now see was based on tolerating experiences rather than courageously pursuing the greatest good.
Yes, this grief is all based on stories made up in the mind. Even the idea of opportunity costâwhat you could have been doing if you had realized this sooner, demands this momentâs realization, which only comes as a result of all the mistakes. Thatâs what learning is. You donât walk without taking falls.
But that doesnât make the grief any less real. Our thoughts are real. Our stories make life meaningful. We must be willing to grieve these in order to open to the possibility of new versions of ourselves, and therefore allow our lives to change.Â
And Iâve never known grief that wasnât built out of love. Grief is a gift that shows us our heart.
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