Alignment demands the death of all unaligned realities. Finding the perfect job costs the one thatās good enough. Letting go of a partnership that isnāt quite right means mourning the future you imagined inhabiting together. Stopping a sport that you keep getting injured playing means realizing that joy is no longer available to you, and maybe hasnāt been for a while.
Many times weāre grieving not only the future dreams that wonāt come to be, the present attachments that weāre releasing back to the void, but the past we now see was based on tolerating experiences rather than courageously pursuing the greatest good.
Yes, this grief is all based on stories made up in the mind. Even the idea of opportunity costāwhat you could have been doing if you had realized this sooner, demands this momentās realization, which only comes as a result of all the mistakes. Thatās what learning is. You donāt walk without taking falls.
But that doesnāt make the grief any less real. Our thoughts are real. Our stories make life meaningful. We must be willing to grieve these in order to open to the possibility of new versions of ourselves, and therefore allow our lives to change.Ā
And Iāve never known grief that wasnāt built out of love. Grief is a gift that shows us our heart.
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