In therapy, I learned to debunk (or affirm) my personal convictions through Socratic Method.

anybody else do this?

Your authenticity and self awareness are impressive. You present as someone with life experience that knows their flaws but uses their experience to help others. 

I have never been very aware of the version of me that others have in their head.

thanks, I look forward to hearing what you come up with, learning stuff and seeing a bias of my own!