parenting

The Open Question March 18: How do we reason about the future given AI? I find this topic extremely perplexing, and endlessly fascinating.

• What are we raising our kids to be ready for? What skills don't matter anymore that we used to hold sacred, and what do we need to emphasize?
• Will we have universities?
• Where to invest time/energy?
• Where to invest money? Will money even matter?
• Purpose and meaning, etc... 

especially when I factor in stuff like Nate Soares talking about If Anyone Builds It Everyone Dies, Rob Miles and Jeffrey Ladish communicating the wild risks involved in AI acceleration, there's almost too much to contemplate at once, and I'd love y'all's help.

Some convos already on UpTrust that might be relevant:

• Blake on AI collaboration
• Tommy on TikTok brain with AI
• Renee on Older people adopting AI
• Leif on Digital Mystics
• Alex on AI & the Second Coming of Christ
• Dave on an AI Safety introduction he likes

#openquestion 

The Open Question March 18: How do we reason about the future given AI? I find this topic extremely perplexing, and endlessly fascinating.

• What are we raising our kids to be ready for? What skills don't matter anymore that we used to hold sacred, and what do we need to emphasize?
• Will we have universities?
• Where to invest time/energy?
• Where to invest money? Will money even matter?
• Purpose and meaning, etc... 

especially when I factor in stuff like Nate Soares talking about If Anyone Builds It Everyone Dies, Rob Miles and Jeffrey Ladish communicating the wild risks involved in AI acceleration, there's almost too much to contemplate at once, and I'd love y'all's help.

Some convos already on UpTrust that might be relevant:

• Blake on AI collaboration
• Tommy on TikTok brain with AI
• Renee on Older people adopting AI
• Leif on Digital Mystics
• Alex on AI & the Second Coming of Christ
• Dave on an AI Safety introduction he likes

#openquestion 

If You Can't Make Peace With Your Partner, How Can You Expect to Make Peace in the World? AMA with Annie Lalla

AMA with Hannah Aline Taylor. Wednesday 2/4 at 4:00 PM CT

love, boundaries, and mistakes in relating, community, and peopling together (+ thank god love doesn’t look like you expect it to)

AMA with Jeffrey Ladish. Wednesday 2/4 at 2:00 PM CT

Executive director of Palisade Research; studying AI loss of control risks.

AMA with Jeffrey Ladish. Wednesday 2/4 at 2:00 PM CT

Executive director of Palisade Research; studying AI loss of control risks.

What is something you admire about each candidate? Inspired by Brian's post

So I know I'm a little late to this, but just started Season 5 of Stranger Things with the fam

Totally digging the post-apocalyptic radio station/recon group setup!
Totally my type of vibe!

Stay Awesome Cyber City!

To Be or Not to Be. Do we want this Uptrusting thing to succeed or to fail?

Maybe two or three years ago I got sick of the pervasive toxicity of social media.  As a specific example, I was a member of over a hundred Facebook groups about assorted topics.  In one for a racing game that recently came out, a user asked which car is fastest, but there isn't one answer to that.  It depends on if you mean fastest top speed or fastest in a race, for example, and anyone that really understands racing knows they're not the same thing.  What's fastest around paved roads isn't fastest offroad.  So I tried to dive deeper into his question, to which in return I had my intelligence criticized.  When I then tried explaining my reasoning, the ad hominem attacks needlessly continued.

I took a year off from social media and created a message board intended for civilized conversation.  Disagreement was cool, but being a jerk was not.  Unfortunately, social media nearly killed off message boards a long time ago.  Few remain.  Mine was stillborn.

A problem today, as always, has been getting your board started.  Activity draws new users and further activity.  The catch 22 is a new board, or whatever, doesn't have that yet.  How do you get there?

So this long-winded explanation brings me to my proposal.  We need to decide whether we want this Uptrusting.com to succeed or to fail.  I would imagine most of us that came here checking it out would want it to take off.  If that's the case, I feel we havecan important part to play in that.  We need to come together and engage, posting and contributing, so that there's activity to appeal to potential new members.  If they check in and see a ghost town, they're probably not coming back.

So, what do we want here?

World-selfing and self-worlding 🪬. In today’s Level Up ⬆️ immersion I was noticing how much our coping strategies assume and defend a world. For example, “I’m quiet because I’m afraid I don’t belong,” assumes and reifies that belonging is a thing that others can grant or deny. This was beautiful to see, and apply to myself (“I’ll share deep insights to earn loving acceptance” assumes loving acceptance is somewhere other than here already) but then I noticed how I was only emphasizing the world-assumption. And I don’t know how any human could ever know of a world without a knower—so whenever we say "world,” we really mean “world+self,” and whenever we say “self,” we really mean “self+world.” So if I’m assuming and defending a world, I’m also assuming and defending a self.

As another example I was reconnecting with an old friend as he described how complex the world is and how simple and low-bandwidth our models of it are. Yes! I agree! Applying the world+self awareness, I see how my self-concept is extremely simple and low-bandwidth compared to the wild complexity of who I am in ‘reality.’

Recursively, the recognition of self+worlding/world+selfing still enacts a world and a self. I don’t think we can stand outside of such a process; we can though shift our sense of what a self and a world are to be more aware of/surrendered into/as the process of this happening. As serious as this sounds, the outcome, if done right, should be more access to a light-hearted playfulness (because we’re always a little mistaken about what’s real and who we are) and heart-break (because everything we love is ephemeral). The heart breaks open to be more with what's here rather than what we hoped—but the grief for what was, is, and what we wanted, is felt more intensely.

Recognizing the process while being the process shifts the locus from defending particular self+worlds to fluid participation in constructing. Self becomes verb rather than noun, world becomes activity rather than container. 

#TTT

Solomon is a Baby Angel. Ever since I was a child I recognized that some of my thoughts “glow.”

Many many times since Solomon was born I have thought “Solomon is a baby angel” but tonight I had the glowing thought ✨ “Solomon is a Baby Angel” ✨

The former could be translated into “Solomon is my little cutie” or something of the like and/but ✨ “Solomon is a Baby Angel” ✨ is a much more literal acknowledgement that Solomon is a Soul who has fallen from Heaven to be with me. When I have this thought I can see him falling at least through my whole pregnancy, maybe through my years of infertility, maybe even longer (or “longer” in some way that isn’t really described in temporal language) and I can see him being born and having fallen and us making one of his names Damien (son of Lucifer - at least since The Omen).

Then I’m in awe and gratitude for Solomon’s huge love for me in coming here to guard and guide me as the Little Angel He Is. Every day he is here for me to love, and in loving him more than I’ve ever loved myself he reminds me and teaches me how to love myself more. How to love myself rightly and well and guard and guide myself. He gives me grace and I learn to give myself grace…

My little Guru, my best Friend, my tiny Adversary, my baby Son…

Just Wait Until You Start Saying “Just Wait”. Since becoming an expecting mother and even more since my baby was born I notice many parents speak about their experience raising their children in an externalizing/universalizing/“unsolicited advice-ifying”sort of way. The “just wait until…” sentence stem is one cardinal example (where a parent expresses an exhortation toward a less experienced parent to expect some experience they have had) but the posture I’m gesturing seems diffuse throughout a lot of parenting culture I am exposed to.

Two and a half months into being a Mom I have yet to myself tell a less experienced or expecting parent to “just wait…” but a clowny humility in me jokes at myself - “just wait until you start saying “just wait”…”

I think part of what my little joke to myself is guessing at is that this posture is not just some sort of relational sloppiness that our culture is too permissive of - I give it the benefit of the doubt that it is an attempt (if sometimes misguided or unattuned) to meet some need a lot of parents have for… something?

I hold together the strong emotional boundary I have held not to take on other parents’ “just wait…” frames/narratives and a curiosity of how this posture is in service of something worthwhile (even if I don’t know what that is or if I harbor an intuition that whatever the something is could be better served another way).

Do you have a guess? Why do you think parents say “just wait” or in other ways turn their experiences into unsolicited and/or generalized advice?