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Daily Alchemy: Can we make this controversy good?

5d ago

“Was Serena Williams justified in posting about disciplining her daughter on social media?”

  • jordan avatar

    Introduce yourself (and say hi to others). What are you passionate about? Who do you love? What fires you up? What are some questions you don't know how to answer? What projects are you working on?

    And if you like sharing the stuff like where are you from, and what do you do, and how many kids you have, we'd love to know that too!

    Artem_Zen avatar
    Artem_Zen•...
    Hey all,  I'm Artem -  creator, contemplative, and community weaver from Brooklyn, NY.  I'm married with two wonderful sons, currently 5 and 6 years old.  I love to learn, have deep conversations, practice relatefulness/circling, and make rap music....
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    The Open Question April 29: What's a society to do with addiction? Hey y'all,

    Last week RFK Jr. (himself in recovery from heroin addiction) was grilled in a Senate hearing about his proposal to build "wellness farms" across the US, modeled on an italian community called San Patrignano.

    People you'd expect to agree end up on opposite sides. Libertarian v. social good. harm reduction v. abstinence. Medication v. community. Secular v. spiritual.

    This week's open question: what's a society to do with addiction?

    • What's your personal experience?
    • Can you force someone well? Where's the line between care and coercion when someone's choices are killing them?

    • What is wellness and who gets to decide?

    • How do we determine addiction? There's drugs, but also TV, phones, social media, porn, food, pursuit of money, power, fame, etc?

    • What do families owe addicts? What do addicts owe their families? What does the state owe either, or either owe the state?

    • If a model works for some and harms others, how should we choose? 

    Last week we asked who decides what's good for the planet. This week, same question pointed at a body. The answers don't get easier when they get closer.

    Lots of love, and see (some of) you at 4p central.

    Jordan
    (UpTrust CEO)


    More spicy details: Sen. Angela Alsobrooks asked RFK Jr. about a quote where he reportedly said "every black kid can be reparented on a wellness farm." He didn't remember saying it, then said if he did, he apologized.

    San Patrignano works without traditional therapy or medications (hard work, peer mentorship, abstinence, and community). Critics, including Yale researchers, point out that medication-assisted treatment (methadone, buprenorphine) is the evidence-backed gold standard for opioid recovery, and that abstinence-only programs fail often and fast. Supporters (including residents who say it saved their lives) say something happens in that kind of community that medication can't touch. 

     

    TrustTheJourney avatar
    TrustTheJourney•...
    critical thinking · 0.4
    My personal experiences with addiction have been painful and complicated. My mother, who is now deceased, was a pedophile. Later in life, my husband struggled with video game addiction, though he eventually recovered. Well, I struggled more than he did!...
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    TrustTheJourney•...
    critical thinking · 0.4
    My personal experiences with addiction have been painful and complicated. My mother, who is now deceased, was a pedophile. Later in life, my husband struggled with video game addiction, though he eventually recovered. Well, I struggled more than he did!...
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    parenting
    addiction
    recovery
    family dynamic
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  • UpTrust Admin avatar

    The Open Question April 29: What's a society to do with addiction? Hey y'all,

    Last week RFK Jr. (himself in recovery from heroin addiction) was grilled in a Senate hearing about his proposal to build "wellness farms" across the US, modeled on an italian community called San Patrignano.

    People you'd expect to agree end up on opposite sides. Libertarian v. social good. harm reduction v. abstinence. Medication v. community. Secular v. spiritual.

    This week's open question: what's a society to do with addiction?

    • What's your personal experience?
    • Can you force someone well? Where's the line between care and coercion when someone's choices are killing them?

    • What is wellness and who gets to decide?

    • How do we determine addiction? There's drugs, but also TV, phones, social media, porn, food, pursuit of money, power, fame, etc?

    • What do families owe addicts? What do addicts owe their families? What does the state owe either, or either owe the state?

    • If a model works for some and harms others, how should we choose? 

    Last week we asked who decides what's good for the planet. This week, same question pointed at a body. The answers don't get easier when they get closer.

    Lots of love, and see (some of) you at 4p central.

    Jordan
    (UpTrust CEO)


    More spicy details: Sen. Angela Alsobrooks asked RFK Jr. about a quote where he reportedly said "every black kid can be reparented on a wellness farm." He didn't remember saying it, then said if he did, he apologized.

    San Patrignano works without traditional therapy or medications (hard work, peer mentorship, abstinence, and community). Critics, including Yale researchers, point out that medication-assisted treatment (methadone, buprenorphine) is the evidence-backed gold standard for opioid recovery, and that abstinence-only programs fail often and fast. Supporters (including residents who say it saved their lives) say something happens in that kind of community that medication can't touch. 

     

    jordan avatar
    jordanSA•...
    psychology · 2.5
    ah man thanks for sharing. the rampant prescribing of opiods scares me; seems so easy for people with no prior history to get addicted and have it super negatively impact their lives, and most of the time the tylenol + advil combo is more effective....
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    Fooljeff•...
    self-help · 0.8

    Crawling towards enlightenment:

    I thought my son was close to crawling months ago. He slowly gets a tiny bit closer every day. Up on his knees and hands right now, he rocks back and forth and then collapses forward, propelling him far enough to reach the toy. He has no real example of how to crawl....
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    The Open Question March 18: How do we reason about the future given AI? I find this topic extremely perplexing, and endlessly fascinating.

    • What are we raising our kids to be ready for? What skills don't matter anymore that we used to hold sacred, and what do we need to emphasize?
    • Will we have universities?
    • Where to invest time/energy?
    • Where to invest money? Will money even matter?
    • Purpose and meaning, etc... 

    especially when I factor in stuff like Nate Soares talking about If Anyone Builds It Everyone Dies, Rob Miles and Jeffrey Ladish communicating the wild risks involved in AI acceleration, there's almost too much to contemplate at once, and I'd love y'all's help.

    Some convos already on UpTrust that might be relevant:

    • Blake on AI collaboration
    • Tommy on TikTok brain with AI
    • Renee on Older people adopting AI
    • Leif on Digital Mystics
    • Alex on AI & the Second Coming of Christ
    • Dave on an AI Safety introduction he likes

    #openquestion 

    jordan avatar
    jordanSA•...
    psychology · 2.5
    Critical thinking is similar to what @laymanpascal pointed to here. I agree. We need more of it for adults too :) I hadn't thought about survival skills as the most natural version of natural consequences, but you're right....
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  • jordan avatar

    The Open Question March 18: How do we reason about the future given AI? I find this topic extremely perplexing, and endlessly fascinating.

    • What are we raising our kids to be ready for? What skills don't matter anymore that we used to hold sacred, and what do we need to emphasize?
    • Will we have universities?
    • Where to invest time/energy?
    • Where to invest money? Will money even matter?
    • Purpose and meaning, etc... 

    especially when I factor in stuff like Nate Soares talking about If Anyone Builds It Everyone Dies, Rob Miles and Jeffrey Ladish communicating the wild risks involved in AI acceleration, there's almost too much to contemplate at once, and I'd love y'all's help.

    Some convos already on UpTrust that might be relevant:

    • Blake on AI collaboration
    • Tommy on TikTok brain with AI
    • Renee on Older people adopting AI
    • Leif on Digital Mystics
    • Alex on AI & the Second Coming of Christ
    • Dave on an AI Safety introduction he likes

    #openquestion 

    jordan avatar
    jordanSA•...
    psychology · 2.5
    Being able to think and plan is a key differentiator of being human, and more mature people tend to think further and wider into the future than others....
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    ai and society
    futures studies
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    sooyounglee369•...
    creative writing · 0.4

    Before Sleep, Resolve Your Inner and Outer Conflicts

    Before going to sleep, repair your conflicts with others + with yourself.   Before putting your child to sleep, hold their hand + tell them how you witnessed their light, courage +kindness....
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    jordanSA•...
    psychology · 2.5

    My son just rode a bike for the first time!

    im so ecstatic. He loved it

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    Redness•...

    I m a bit of a mess but I think my perspective will resonate

    Hello   I hope everyone is having a phenomenal day in new here. I’m a 53 yr single mother of 2 adult sons . I live alone with my Boston terrier In rural Arkansas . I’m a entrepreneur author, an advocate....
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    If You Can't Make Peace With Your Partner, How Can You Expect to Make Peace in the World? AMA with Annie Lalla

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_5TMc--Or8
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    lyssa•...
    mental health · 0.4

    70% of disposable time goes out the window with a child?! Yikes.

    Wounds - whatever doesn't get handled by the crucible of love will get handled by the child. Double yikes!

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    AMA with Hannah Aline Taylor. Wednesday 2/4 at 4:00 PM CT

    love, boundaries, and mistakes in relating, community, and peopling together (+ thank god love doesn’t look like you expect it to)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNYNL05PRBQ
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    sass•...
    emotional development · 0.4

    I bet you let them learn how to hurt in the safest way though, Jordan 🫶🏽 & that's a super valuable life rep toooo! (I know you know but I felt compelled to type it haha)

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    AMA with Jeffrey Ladish. Wednesday 2/4 at 2:00 PM CT

    Executive director of Palisade Research; studying AI loss of control risks.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALfhq3r7Cz0
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    JulieI•...
    mental health · 0.4
    And don't you love it! Maybe we need to think about the non-logical paths data can follow. I don't program but do you ever put a bug in or supply bogus data just to see what happens? Be prepared for any outcome? And, AFTER we see what happens, choose our response....
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  • UpTrust Admin avatar

    AMA with Jeffrey Ladish. Wednesday 2/4 at 2:00 PM CT

    Executive director of Palisade Research; studying AI loss of control risks.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALfhq3r7Cz0
    jordan avatar
    jordanSA•...
    psychology · 2.5

    the metaphor of a child makes a lot of sense, this very literally happens with my kids. Sometimes they'll actively come find me to tell me they've tricked me. lol

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    jenmet7299•...

    Welcome Moms!

    I hope you find this group helpful and informative. 

    I’m a mother of one child with Autism.  He’s 15. 


    How about you?

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    What is something you admire about each candidate? Inspired by Brian's post

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    SCUBA STEVE•...
    politics · 0.4
    I found so much new stuff to research and understand from/within your response! To be honest, I still have a few points/rabbit holes to deep dive before I will be able to properly respond....
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    time management
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    So I know I'm a little late to this, but just started Season 5 of Stranger Things with the fam

    Totally digging the post-apocalyptic radio station/recon group setup!
    Totally my type of vibe!

    Stay Awesome Cyber City!

    Philip avatar
    Philip•...
    cryptocurrency · 0.8

    We’re still on season 2 (re-watching with our son who’s watching for the 1st time and obsessed with the show). So “late” is relative. : )

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  • Yeti avatar

    To Be or Not to Be. Do we want this Uptrusting thing to succeed or to fail?

    Maybe two or three years ago I got sick of the pervasive toxicity of social media.  As a specific example, I was a member of over a hundred Facebook groups about assorted topics.  In one for a racing game that recently came out, a user asked which car is fastest, but there isn't one answer to that.  It depends on if you mean fastest top speed or fastest in a race, for example, and anyone that really understands racing knows they're not the same thing.  What's fastest around paved roads isn't fastest offroad.  So I tried to dive deeper into his question, to which in return I had my intelligence criticized.  When I then tried explaining my reasoning, the ad hominem attacks needlessly continued.

    I took a year off from social media and created a message board intended for civilized conversation.  Disagreement was cool, but being a jerk was not.  Unfortunately, social media nearly killed off message boards a long time ago.  Few remain.  Mine was stillborn.

    A problem today, as always, has been getting your board started.  Activity draws new users and further activity.  The catch 22 is a new board, or whatever, doesn't have that yet.  How do you get there?

    So this long-winded explanation brings me to my proposal.  We need to decide whether we want this Uptrusting.com to succeed or to fail.  I would imagine most of us that came here checking it out would want it to take off.  If that's the case, I feel we havecan important part to play in that.  We need to come together and engage, posting and contributing, so that there's activity to appeal to potential new members.  If they check in and see a ghost town, they're probably not coming back.

    So, what do we want here?

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    TRG•...
    risk management · 0.4
    I think I always like to see new things succeed, if they are truly new things.  And, if they don't morph into something else along the way. And, I'll admit, I don't know how the creators of a thing can control that....
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    Yeti•...

    My Philosophy

    I have always used YouTube since its beginning.  I had a generic channel, if you can call it that, which was basically just whatever random stuff I uploaded over the years, but with no theme.  More recently I've created a handful of focused, themed channels....
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  • jordan avatar

    World-selfing and self-worlding 🪬. In today’s Level Up ⬆️ immersion I was noticing how much our coping strategies assume and defend a world. For example, “I’m quiet because I’m afraid I don’t belong,” assumes and reifies that belonging is a thing that others can grant or deny. This was beautiful to see, and apply to myself (“I’ll share deep insights to earn loving acceptance” assumes loving acceptance is somewhere other than here already) but then I noticed how I was only emphasizing the world-assumption. And I don’t know how any human could ever know of a world without a knower—so whenever we say "world,” we really mean “world+self,” and whenever we say “self,” we really mean “self+world.” So if I’m assuming and defending a world, I’m also assuming and defending a self.

    As another example I was reconnecting with an old friend as he described how complex the world is and how simple and low-bandwidth our models of it are. Yes! I agree! Applying the world+self awareness, I see how my self-concept is extremely simple and low-bandwidth compared to the wild complexity of who I am in ‘reality.’

    Recursively, the recognition of self+worlding/world+selfing still enacts a world and a self. I don’t think we can stand outside of such a process; we can though shift our sense of what a self and a world are to be more aware of/surrendered into/as the process of this happening. As serious as this sounds, the outcome, if done right, should be more access to a light-hearted playfulness (because we’re always a little mistaken about what’s real and who we are) and heart-break (because everything we love is ephemeral). The heart breaks open to be more with what's here rather than what we hoped—but the grief for what was, is, and what we wanted, is felt more intensely.

    Recognizing the process while being the process shifts the locus from defending particular self+worlds to fluid participation in constructing. Self becomes verb rather than noun, world becomes activity rather than container. 

    #TTT

    jordan avatar
    jordanSA•...
    psychology · 2.5
    this is a great question, thanks, and tough, all of the examples feel tough to put into language. The most obvious one (and probably most well accepted) is how when I shift my perception of someone, i treat them differently, and they show up differently....
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