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Daily Alchemy: a question to think on together
“When you feel your patience running out with your kid, what helps you stay both warm and firm, and where did you learn it?”
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Why having kids is bonkers (if you’re addicted to comfort)
Hot take: If your life is all about chasing pleasure, getting the newest shiny thing, and looking for your next dopamine hit, then yeh – having kids is nuts. They’re messy, noisy, and they’ll likely ruin your dreams of becoming a social media influencer.... - josefine...
Love and play are our natural states of being
Underneath everything is love. If I can’t feel the love, I know there’s something I’m not including in my experience. I must be slightly dissociated if I can’t access some touch of gratitude, love, awe, or flow.... Toddler lessons: Wanting people to think differently is a recipe for suffering 🐼
“I don’t want Bubba Girl to think Spidey is Appa!” my son Jack cries after our 1.5 year old daughter Cecilia calls a stuffed animal by a different name. He almost melts down, screaming, “I don’t want her to think that!” As adults we see that he’s suffering his own thoughts.... - nat...
The best compliiment from a 3 year old
I was searching my FB profile feed for something and came across a post (from 2023) about the best compliment I received from my 3-year-old grandson.
"Nat, you're really good at being silly!" - TruthTeller...
Sitting alone in thought…but you’re invited
I’m 46yo, half blind, can’t feel the left three fingers after that stupid circular saw accident two years back, and three of my four appendages have at least one of the joints involved that need replaced.... - Fooljeff...
Crawling towards enlightenment:
I thought my son was close to crawling months ago. He slowly gets a tiny bit closer every day. Up on his knees and hands right now, he rocks back and forth and then collapses forward, propelling him far enough to reach the toy. He has no real example of how to crawl.... - Philip...
I really like this approach to parenting, and it’s definitely the spirit that Liz and I have brought to parenting our son. That being said, I’m finding lately that my son benefits a lot when I bring a stronger boundary-setting presence than I usually do.... In general, I’m not sure there’s much merit to this exploration in general without the added clause of "for insert specific circumstance" Without that, I think you’re pointing to preferences and beliefs based on your sliver of the world. Is it "for happiness"?... Man my heart breaks for you hearing this. To feel like you’re honestly answering a question and be blindsided by such fury and judgement must have felt like a betrayal, and a deep invalidation. Like c’mon, what was she thinking?! That you can make yourself feel a different way?... - renee...
Yeah, I agree the energy behind the words matters more. That’s an interesting thing your teacher said. Thinking of a kid that trips and falls. A mom might rush over in a panic, her anxiety amplifying the situation.... Thanks, I don’t imagine I’ll create guilt-free, but hopefully more guilt-flexible :) I think what I mean by that is that is I don’t expect to be perfect, by any means I don’t expect that the guilt-induction is on parents or families alone (I imagine it’s society and also... - david...
Gotta love kid wisdom!
- lyssa...
70% of disposable time goes out the window with a child?! Yikes.
Wounds - whatever doesn't get handled by the crucible of love will get handled by the child. Double yikes!
I think there's something underneath a lot of the fears about being replaced by AI that is determining our value on something external, like being able to figure out new science, contribute to the world, etc.... - josefine...
Providing environments for learning
Imagine you’re attending a meditation workshop and the facilitator invites you to lean into stillness. After a few seconds, they start giving cues on how to be still, one after another, followed by reading a passage from a book about meditation, and then it ends.... How i decieded to stop sharing my feelings with my mom
one time when i was 17, my mom took me to Baltimore (like an hour and a half away) to help me get my driving learner’s permit. it was a special DMV with extra long lines, because i was not a citizen.... Toddler lessons: projection makes perception 🧸
Jack complains that Cecilia wants to steal a toy from his hands. I look at him quizzically, and he turns to ask her, “Bubba girl, do you want to rip this toy from my hands?” to which she replies “yaaaaa.” “See!” Jack yelps, “she does want to rip this from my hands!” Cecilia, aka... The Wild Robot (on Netflix)
This is my favorite movie since Everything Everywhere All at Once. It brought me to tears. I don’t have much sociosomnia on it for today, but it’s worth noting that I see ROZ embodying qualities associated with “feminine” leadership: empathy, collaboration, compassion,... Toddler parallels: creating our own suffering 🍳
Yesterday morning Jack was playing while Cecilia ate her eggs. Ten minutes later she was done and got down from her stool. Suddenly Jack was distraught. “But I wanted to eat eggs when Bubba Girl is eating eggs!” he wailed....