I feel like friends including some here have been gesturing at this to me for years but I got it
on a deeper level today in therapy.
I was talking about how unhappy I am about my work lately.
Therapist suggested what would be my ideal work like instead? And so I envisioned it but then immediately started thinking about the roadblocks to getting there.
But only focusing on the roadblocks is focusing only on the negative and where we put our attention only grows. Rather, I could also include more of what’s drawing me and how great it’d be. Ideally some combo of both.
A distinction between want (etymology linked to lacking) vs desire (await what the stars will bring
)