Attraction is out of our control, Microbe overlords are controlling our actions. So, I watched this documentary on Netflix last night, which reignited my interest in the gut microbiome.
Iām connecting dots between what weāre learning about how the gut biome impacts mood and actions with the elusive nature of attraction.
During my Sunday Relateful Flow session, someone said, Iām learning that trying to understand someone gets in the way of just letting myself be attracted to them.
Research is showing that the gut biome can influence and even potentially create conditions like depression, autism, and obesity.
More research will show that the sense of attraction to others is also influenced by the biome. We have scant data on this now- one study shows that female mice tended to be more attractive mates when they had more diverse gut flora.
So, why does this matter? It makes me think about sitting at the dinner table the other night. Some friends were over with their young child, and he was incessantly eating salt. The kidās dad said oh hm he must need salt,
trusting his natural intelligence.
My hypothesis is that research will show that weāre attracted to people with the gut bacteria we need more for greater diversity, so our microbes drive us to exchange bodily fluids with them.š
On the other hand, I guess itās possible that if youāre overrun with less-than-ideal microbes or less gut biodiversity, then maybe those microbes want to stay in charge, and theyāll lead you to swap fluids with someone whose biome maintains the status quo.
Hereās what I think everyone should do with this information:
1. Eat more fiber and fermented foods. Do this for many months.
2. Once youāve worked on ensuring you have a diverse microbiome, trust your attraction. If youāre monog, sorry- you need to take up polyamory. Give it a go. For your health. š
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20230120-how-gut-bacteria-are-controlling-your-brain