Our emotions are symptoms not causes. Our emotions are symptoms not causes
What difference might it make were we to understand that our emotions are symptoms and not causes?
Love arises as an experience under a set of positive circumstances such as listening, honor, and respect.
Happiness arises under a similar set of circumstances.
When they are present you and I feel happy.
Anger and hate and related negative emotions arise under circumstances to the degree that we are left experiencing anger, frustration, aggravation, annoyance, and irritation.
All of which are signs and symptoms of underlying sets of negative life-sucking circumstances.
None of our emotions are "at cause" of the emotions we experience.
Our emotions are telltales, signs, and symptoms of the circumstances running beneath the surface of our awareness.
Now we can ask the appropriate question.
"What are those circumstances running beneath the surface of our emotions experiences?"
That's where we go to work.
Choosing to act, behave, acting in positive ways we experience happiness, feel loved, cherished, connected, and cared for.
Choosing to act, behave, in negative ways we will feel angry, irritated, frustrated, annoyed, aggravated, and irritated.
It's all up to us - once we realize that whatever we are feeling in our moment is a symptom, a telltale of what's going on beneath the surface of our awareness.
Then we have choice and our experiences will be of freedom, joy, happiness, love, mutual honor and respect.
Choose wisely.
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