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  • dara_like_sara avatar

    What outcome do you hope for? I was on a call for the last hour talking with a friend about supporting a vision he has. 

    At the end of the call, he asked "what are you hoping to get out of this?"

    I found the question really hard to answer in a way that makes any sense at all.

    My answer to the questions comes in feelings, images, and body sensations. I see a bowl overflowing, I feel a magnetic pull, I experience a sense of duty, I follow synchronicities, I release and this is what came to me. One of my purposes in this life is to bring people together, especially really smart people. I don't have a goal, and if I did, I am sure it would change. I want to be of service to a vision of the best future possible.

    I'm after the experience. My vision will fill out along the way. 

    When I can't frame the answer in an intelligible way, it causes doubt- maybe this isn't right? Maybe my intuition would have a clearer answer if this were the right path. Maybe I'm cutoff from what outcomes I hope for and need to work on getting more in touch with my desires. Am I too scared to name a desired outcome for fear of being letdown if it doesn't come true?

    But I want to try on that the question may just be the wrong question for me. Or that my answer to the question isn't going to sound like what I've heard from other people. 

    Sharing here, and open to others experience of answering this question. How do you know what you want? 

    And if you know me, happy to hear your perspective on my specific psychology or what you think is going on 🤔

    jordanSA•...
    I want to be of service to a vision of the best future possible. This is one answer to your friend's question I think. But also, I resonate with the vibe you're naming....
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  • X

    Only looking at roadblocks is self-defeating. I feel like friends including some here have been gesturing at this to me for years but I got it on a deeper level today in therapy.

    I was talking about how unhappy I am about my work lately.

    Therapist suggested what would be my ideal work like instead? And so I envisioned it but then immediately started thinking about the roadblocks to getting there.

    But only focusing on the roadblocks is focusing only on the negative and where we put our attention only grows. Rather, I could also include more of what’s drawing me and how great it’d be. Ideally some combo of both.

    A distinction between want (etymology linked to lacking) vs desire (await what the stars will bring)

    CoachWebb13•...

    So now it comes to this - what do you control? The answer is your choices, your, time, thoughts, attitude, boundaries and self care. Best wishes 

    personal development
    mental health
    self care
    life coaching
    time management
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  • dara_like_sara avatar

    What outcome do you hope for? I was on a call for the last hour talking with a friend about supporting a vision he has. 

    At the end of the call, he asked "what are you hoping to get out of this?"

    I found the question really hard to answer in a way that makes any sense at all.

    My answer to the questions comes in feelings, images, and body sensations. I see a bowl overflowing, I feel a magnetic pull, I experience a sense of duty, I follow synchronicities, I release and this is what came to me. One of my purposes in this life is to bring people together, especially really smart people. I don't have a goal, and if I did, I am sure it would change. I want to be of service to a vision of the best future possible.

    I'm after the experience. My vision will fill out along the way. 

    When I can't frame the answer in an intelligible way, it causes doubt- maybe this isn't right? Maybe my intuition would have a clearer answer if this were the right path. Maybe I'm cutoff from what outcomes I hope for and need to work on getting more in touch with my desires. Am I too scared to name a desired outcome for fear of being letdown if it doesn't come true?

    But I want to try on that the question may just be the wrong question for me. Or that my answer to the question isn't going to sound like what I've heard from other people. 

    Sharing here, and open to others experience of answering this question. How do you know what you want? 

    And if you know me, happy to hear your perspective on my specific psychology or what you think is going on 🤔

    CoachWebb13•...
    As far as the second question: I know what I want when I can't stop thinking about it. Unfortunately for a long time I knew more about what I didn't want. When I learned about the law of attraction I started to state & focus on what I DO want. Honestly sometimes I don't know....
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    mindfulness and meditation
    flow state and peak performance
    law of attraction and manifestation
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  • dara_like_saraSA•...

    What outcome do you hope for?

    I was on a call for the last hour talking with a friend about supporting a vision he has.  At the end of the call, he asked "what are you hoping to get out of this?" I found the question really hard to answer in a way that makes any sense at all....
    personal development
    psychology
    spirituality
    career and life purpose
    self discovery
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  • jordan avatar

    Jeffry Martin, Jeffrey Epstein, and high decoupling. some messy thoughts, would love y'all's takes

    I. Jeffrey Martin tried to sell “enlightenment” to Jeffrey Epstein for $10 million USD.

    More importantly: In the DOJ emails, he asks for “..a few (legal age) slave girls of my own choosing, in the event that at least some of your press coverage is accurate... ; )

    But how can we trust Epstein? There's not enough evidence in there in this case... to quote Marco Beneteau “most people who know [Martin] think that the "slave-girl" quote was fabricated / injected by Epstein as it's out of character for Martin. This is possible and even likely given that Epstein was positioning himself as a professional blackmailer. There is also no reason for Martin, a serious businessman, to compromise himself in this way with a known criminal.”

    Martin’s emails are shady AF, but to me (and most) Martin always seemed shady. That doesn’t discredit the genuine contributions he’s made; it does point to us being incredibly discerning about what he says and where it comes from.

    It also points to whatever Martin is teaching being pretty weird; the concept of enlightenment is weird and sketch, so it asks us to be more discerning still.

    II. High decoupling is an idea that you can separate the pieces from the whole.

    Eg: MLK can be a womanizer yet still a civil rights role model. It’s super necessary for science to figure out causality by separating variables, and it’s helpful for the pursuit of truth since the key evolution into 3rd person objective, rational thinking is that stuff exists outside of its context. Newton had to actually prove this about physics—before him people genuinely didn’t know if gravity operated differently in America v Europe v the moon.

    A person could be enlightened and charge $10 Million for it. A person could have useful tips and not be "enlightened" whatever that means. A bunch of other decouples...

    III. Wholeness must include fragmentation to be whole

    I talk a lot about seeing wholes, interconnectivity, and relationships, which one might think of as low-decoupling, or re-coupling, or something. But just like surrender includes your desire, the world being neutral means you get to fully engage in it, true wholeness includes parts and division. Your limited self-concept can’t threaten how much people love you, and decoupling can’t threaten the universe’s inherent interconnectivity. High decoupling and low decoupling are like directions on a circle -if you take either far enough the meet on the other side. eg:

    • decoupling for love: consider a toddler behaving like a little dictator. Decoupling rather than seeing them as one thing might increase the love
    • decoupling for truth: eg pulling what's good and useful from Martin's "research" and throwing out the rest
    jordanSA•...
    Not the same for me, I'm totally unblemished 🤣 . I wholeheartedly agree that even the best spaces have lots of glaring errors, shadows, problems, and even the best teachers show up in bodies that have problems, and impact other bodies....
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    trauma recovery
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  • jordan avatar

    The Open Question March 18: How do we reason about the future given AI? I find this topic extremely perplexing, and endlessly fascinating.

    • What are we raising our kids to be ready for? What skills don't matter anymore that we used to hold sacred, and what do we need to emphasize?
    • Will we have universities?
    • Where to invest time/energy?
    • Where to invest money? Will money even matter?
    • Purpose and meaning, etc... 

    especially when I factor in stuff like Nate Soares talking about If Anyone Builds It Everyone Dies, Rob Miles and Jeffrey Ladish communicating the wild risks involved in AI acceleration, there's almost too much to contemplate at once, and I'd love y'all's help.

    Some convos already on UpTrust that might be relevant:

    • Blake on AI collaboration
    • Tommy on TikTok brain with AI
    • Renee on Older people adopting AI
    • Leif on Digital Mystics
    • Alex on AI & the Second Coming of Christ
    • Dave on an AI Safety introduction he likes

    #openquestion 

    jordanSA•...
    Being able to think and plan is a key differentiator of being human, and more mature people tend to think further and wider into the future than others....
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    parenting
    ai and society
    futures studies
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  • Shera JoyCry•...

    Beyond Inner Work: Relational Awareness and the Practice of Relateful Personal development trains inner awareness. Relateful trains relational awareness.

    Beyond Inner Work: Relational Awareness and the Practice of Relateful Personal development trains inner awareness. Relateful trains relational awareness....
    personal development
    interpersonal relationships
    mindfulness and contemplative practices
    psychology and psychotherapy
    social neuroscience and systems theory
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  • PanDaBear avatar

    The Music Never Stops. GOTTA MAKE IT SOMEHOW ON THE DREAMS WE STILL BELIEVE. 

    Paulleverich•...
    That line pretty much sums up the human condition if you strip away all the noise.   Most people act like success is some clean, predictable formula. It isn’t....
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    entrepreneurship
    motivation
    resilience
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  • Shane.Orton•...

    Journal Submission: How to Change Oneself

    How To Change Oneself: Why Rational Control Fails and Emotional Understanding Works   Abstract   At first glance, personal change appears straightforward: identify an unwanted behavior, decide to act differently, and implement the new behavior....
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  • sooyounglee369 avatar

    I struggle with this false belief: If something is meant to be, it would be easy.

    Right?  WRONG!

    Following this train of thought = If something challenges you, you will believe it is not meant for you.

    You will misinterpret the resistance + problems as signs that you need to quit.

    I know I have. I have seen the blocks, the rejections and procrastination as proof that I am not cut out for my visions.

    This mindset guarantees an endless cycle of starting and stopping.

    The most rewarding experiences in my life include the heat of resistance + fire of transformation.

    That moves you from fear + insecurity into competence + growth.

    The fire burns from facing your fears + alchemizing it through practice + action.

    This is easier to see in hindsight, so I want to remind you and myself that if there is something you are creating and feel the struggle, keep going. 

    You are not burning bridges. You are building them.

    sooyounglee369•...

    Beautifully said. The challenge brings the best out of us and stokes our inner fire for growth. 

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  • UpTrust Admin avatar

    AMA with John Mackey. Wednesday, 2/11 at 2:00 PM CT

    We’re here to talk about A Course in Miracles, and The Disappearance of the Universe, and how we can help each other home with the practices of true forgiveness.

    John Mackey is well known as the co-founder of Whole Foods (and CEO for 44 years), innovator in Conscious Capitalism (including creating billion dollar company while changing food systems for the better, implementing executive salary caps, radical health care and employee wellness programs, etc,) and most recently founder of Love.life - a cutting edge medicine, nutrition, fitness, center w/ pickleball, cafe. 

     

    https://youtube.com/watch?v=5GVmvrPQgD4
    jordanSA•...
    thanks Seth! I'm always so glad for the feedback, and to know the impact. I've gone through the workbook a couple times and I find it so powerful and transformative. Any lessons stick out to you so far?...
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    feedback
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  • david•...

    Intro, David, 6/2 Self Projecting Projector

    I've had almost a decade of studying Human Design (HD) and Gene Keys (GK) (related, same roots, different methods of practice). I'm starting to get real results....
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    human design
    gene keys
    personality typing systems
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  • Redelman•...

    Wisdom Is Taboo — And Why That Matters Now

    https://livingartswisdom.substack.com/p/wisdom-is-taboo-and-why-that-matters

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    philosophy
    sociology
    cultural critique
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  • sooyounglee369•...
    I struggle with this false belief: If something is meant to be, it would be easy. Right?  WRONG! Following this train of thought = If something challenges you, you will believe it is not meant for you....
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  • sooyounglee369 avatar

    I don't feel very creative or safe lately. Lately, so much of what I write or create feels meaningless with the current state of affairs in the background, humming like a constant threat.

    I have scrapped so much content, and I usually tend to create for the practice of creating.

    Then my older son asked me, “Uhma are you writing about what you are feeling + dealing with?”

    That’s when I realized I have been busy numbing myself -a type of disassociation or distracting myself to avoid the overwhelm.

    Some thoughts:

    1) A level of safety if necessary to create

    2) Safety can also be found within through practice + discernment

    3) Sometimes, we must not run from the fear we feel but toward it to understand

    3) Sometimes, because we don’t feel safe, we need speak on that.

    Confession: I don’t feel safe lately.

    In process: I am building an inner sanctuary of safety to face my fears.

    Betty Bennett•...
    But one thing is for sure...you are Brave! I just published about a week ago an article on discouragement and your post made me pull it out and read it again, making sure I was doing what I had advised my readers to do....
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  • sooyounglee369 avatar

    I don't feel very creative or safe lately. Lately, so much of what I write or create feels meaningless with the current state of affairs in the background, humming like a constant threat.

    I have scrapped so much content, and I usually tend to create for the practice of creating.

    Then my older son asked me, “Uhma are you writing about what you are feeling + dealing with?”

    That’s when I realized I have been busy numbing myself -a type of disassociation or distracting myself to avoid the overwhelm.

    Some thoughts:

    1) A level of safety if necessary to create

    2) Safety can also be found within through practice + discernment

    3) Sometimes, we must not run from the fear we feel but toward it to understand

    3) Sometimes, because we don’t feel safe, we need speak on that.

    Confession: I don’t feel safe lately.

    In process: I am building an inner sanctuary of safety to face my fears.

    sooyounglee369•...
    Thank you Mark. I rarely think about audience but it is important that I do. I just love writing and creating from the experience of my life and see what lands. The exploration is what thrills me but if I want to have more of an impact, audience is important. I love your advice....
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    audience engagement
    creative process
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  • sooyounglee369•...

    I don't feel very creative or safe lately

    Lately, so much of what I write or create feels meaningless with the current state of affairs in the background, humming like a constant threat. I have scrapped so much content, and I usually tend to create for the practice of creating....
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    mental health
    creative writing
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  • Redelman•...

    https://livingartswisdom.substack.com/p/recognize-and-share-your-luminous

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  • Elohimist avatar

    The Born Again Gospel .  The Born Again Gospel

    You are a created being, made in the image of a Holy God but, no one on Earth can be Holy so, God sent His Only Begotten Son Jesus, to take the punishment for our sins by dying on a cross. He was placed in a tomb and on the third day His God and Father raised Him from the dead and exalted Him to the Throne of Heaven. God has made this Jesus, whom they crucified, both Lord and Christ. And, Jesus: The Son of Man, will return to take us to be with Him forever and ever. Amen. 

    Romans 10:8-13

    ...“The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart,” that is, the word of faith we are proclaiming: that if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” And, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with your heart you believe and are justified And, with your mouth you confess and are saved.

    It is just as the Scripture says: “Anyone who believes in Him will never be put to shame.” For there is no difference between a Jew or a gentile, for the same Lord is Lord of all, and gives richly to all who "call" on Him, for, “Everyone who "calls" on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

    John 3:3

     Jesus replied, “Truly I tell you! No one can see the kingdom of God unless he is born again.”

    Becoming Born Again is 'known' by The Initial Evidence of The Holy Spirit. 

    1st Corinthians 12:3

     Therefore, I inform you that no one who is speaking by the Spirit of God says, “Jesus be cursed,” and no one can say, “Jesus is Lord,” except by the Holy Spirit.

    1st Corinthians 14:1 

    Earnestly pursue "love", (Galatian 5:22,23 The Fruit of the Holy Spirit is Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.) and earnestly desire spiritual gifts, (1st Corinthians 12-14) and especially that you might prophesy.

    Luke 11:13 Therefore if you, being evil, know to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the Father who is in Heaven give the Holy Spirit, to those who 'ask' Him."

    Here is an example prayer.

    Almighty God and Father, I believe You raised your Son Jesus from the dead. Please forgive me of all my sins and fill me with Your Holy Spirit so I can bear good fruit and do Your will, in the name of Jesus my Lord and Christ. Amen. Thank you Father God, Thank you Lord Jesus. Halleluyah!

    Matthew 6:8-15 

    Nevertheless, the firm foundation of God stands, having this seal, "The Lord knows those who are His," and, "Everyone who names the name of the Lord is to abstain from wickedness." 2nd Timothy 2:19

    My name is Arnold J. Bur and I am an Elohimist.

    Elohimists.com
    Bg666•...
    1. le teaches a few things. 

    1. Stay humble 2. Happiness starts from within. 3. No matter what always love God.

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  • B

    Hi! Who are you? . Hi my name is Bridta. 
    I am a 2/4 Reflector

    🫣👉👈✨🪞

    What's your profile and type? 🙃

    [deleted]inHuman Design Community•...
    Hi - I am Scott. My wife and I were introduced to Human Design by friends back in November - I am a 3/5 Generator. There is so much to it. My chart is 53 pages, and I feel like I hardly understand even the basics, but it is pretty interesting as a way to think about behavior...
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