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I generally agree with this perspective. I’m also coming to appreciate that empathy is most meaningful when combined with a strong sense of self and fair but firm boundaries.... - onMuch better streamlined version of "Beyond Inner Work: Relational Awareness and the Practice of Relateful"by
I enjoyed this paper, Shera. I live and teach in a conscious community at Clear Sky Retreat Center, and recently led a course on Emotional Intelligence and Integral's Emotional Line of Development -- a mix of our mostly-Buddhist teachings, the Emotional Intelligence work of Dan... I also make it clear to people that I don't have a lot of expectations for them to be any different than they already are. I can manage how close I want to be to them based on my own standards. Both of these seem absolutely critical, and very difficult for a ton of people.... I agree with you, Shane, and generally feel that the repression of anger is ultimately not a good strategy. Anyone who is looking down on someone that taps into their anger may be blinding themselves to their own anger (in the very one-up position they are taking in... Our emotions are symptoms not causes
Our emotions are symptoms not causes What difference might it make were we to understand that our emotions are symptoms and not causes? Love arises as an experience under a set of positive circumstances such as listening, honor, and respect.... - [deleted]...
That’s actually kind of what my post was about. When we start calling whole groups “low IQ,” make blanket claims, and say one side is pure good and the other is pure evil, we stop thinking critically and start reacting emotionally. My point wasn’t left vs right.... i love this question, and I think it's a tricky one. On the one hand, enrage almost never goes somewhere I actually want to go. It just deepens the divide. On the other hand, i deeply value being able to connect on differing opinions, I think it's how we grow.... - onlooks like I've been wrong and spreading misinformation about the disproven "triune brain theory"by
Lisa Barrett has an amazing book called Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain that completely flips a lot of common notions about the brain. She also wrote a great book about emotions and discrediting the micro facial movements that was so popular in the 2000s.... Read the full post 3) One of the things I do over and over again in leadership is stop people before they "push themselves" into vulnerability. Often they, or the group, will express this idea that they should go into something "deep" and I'll basically interrupt and say something like "Oh wait, I... - Shera JoyCry...
What is Relateful - it's not JUST being vulnerable> right?
What is Relateful? This is something i think about almost all day long. Ok that's extreme over stating, but it's a big part of my life. It's not what is it, but more like, HOW DO I EXPLAIN IT? What is it though. So for me, it's been a life changing practice.... Relatefulness vs Circling
I've been discovering distinctions and felt-senses of Relatefulness that seem to differ from how I know Circling. My short catch phrase is: "If meditation is the art of being, and Circling is the art of being-with, then Relatefulness is the art of being-human-with." I like this,... - Shera JoyCry...
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What how do we explain relateful? How is it different than Authentic relating, circling and T Group? Back story, Circle Anywhere- Relateful have changed my life in ways -no other tools has ever come close... AND I CAN't ARTICULATE how and why!... - renee...
This is really beautiful, Jordan. A good reminder that emotional awareness isn’t the end point, it’s what we do with it. It can be easy to slip from awareness into entitlement. Like once I’ve named what’s happening, others should meet me there.... Read the full post - david...
Wabi-sabi applied to the soft-shell membrane of human consciousness
Wabi-sabi is often associated with the Japanese art. In pottery form, it's expression yields Kintsugi, broken pottery re-formed with gold lacquer. But the principle itself celebrates the impermanence, imperfection, and transient yet sacred nature of life.... - renee...
My vision of a better future is simple: we've learned to see how much energy we spend maintaining rather than living. Maintaining our anger. Maintaining our fears. Maintaining our stories about why we can't be happy right now.... Yeah I was also thinking about the Jhanas. Tommy in case you haven't heard of them, Brian talks a little about going to a reatreat here, but I think a lot of the techniques are specifically about cultivating these self-reinforcing loops of goodness.... Are all second-order emotions bad?
An idea that I’ve found helpful recently is the idea that all second-order emotions are bad. Feeling sad about feeling sad, feeling happy about feeling happy—all of it is bad. Emotions are unavoidable and just are, and meeting them with full acceptance and curiosity is good.... - onPain and suffering- the difference looks massive to me lately. Someone was rude to me earlier today. The in-the-moment impact of his words was discomfort (pain), but the suffering happens in the rumination. bystephen...
Yep yep, second arrow of obsessive rumination. I had this happen recently with a friend who heavily projected their stressful experience onto me over a text thread. Watching my heart do little somersaults in the self-judgement and uncertainty it triggered was fascinating.... I loved the movie KPop Demon Hunters
It's a tear-jerker—even just listening to the climax song in my car last night brought some wetness. And somehow the premise, despite being totally absurd, not only works, it feels relevant to the world we inhabit today. Including what we're doing with uptrust...... - onWhat are some of your uncertainties? Experiences of failure (that maybe you still haven't turned into learnings yet?) Obvious realizations?by
This makes a lot of sense, thanks Nithya. I'm especially trying to sink into what you've described as going the one level deeper, softening the resistance to resistance....