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Daily Alchemy: a question to think on together
22h ago“When a culture's unwritten rules feel safe to some and suffocating to others, who gets to decide what counts as normal?”
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This reminds me of a conversation I recently had where a few layers down they realized they were afraid of being a terrible person and dying alone. And I was like, excellent, it sounds like making peace with being a terrible person and dying alone will free up a lot of energy for... Patience, aka fractal Forming Storming Norming Performing
Yesterday I was in a circle where someone said something like, "Okay, I’m learning that what I shared (10 minutes ago or something) created more distance and division in the group, and that’s not what I want." I could totally see where they were coming from, with the immediate... Austin is so strange. There’s a kool-aid here that strangely perpetuates until it’s not really a koolaid anymore: be interesting, be friendly, make friends, have fun. I think all the people moving here keeps a constant state of excitement and openness.... - Benzi...
The best thing I’ve done ( to "...get rid of the MAGA nonsense and move forward.") is creating real life friendships with people who voted for Trump.... I am considering that the "uptrust" is similar to reddit. "uptrust" means yeah i want more of this!” and "downtrust" means "nope, less of that." i thought i wanted a like a button initially, but i notice that I don’t have that same desire when I’m on reddit.... say i’ve got a friend Andy who wants to spend every day together hanging out. I like Andy so much that I want to see him once a month. Let’s say I compromise my boundaries and I hang with him a few times a week. I’m not showing up honestly as me, so who is andy connecting with?... I think you’re comparing strange things here. Right now we have to vote for unconsciousness (die in secret) to get over your hump and the cost is people are being shamed to stay alive.... - xander...
Complexity def gets higher and reason why so many of us fall back to default patterns/norms or keep things super small sizes. Some friends of mine turned me towards https://mikikashtan.org/ work that seems interesting.... Dead Systems like Money are powerful because we all believe the same thing
Navigating community, relationships, or anything really that’s complex and has many different perceptions of the object is really hard. But dead things like money essentially have one perception.... I keep coming up against people who don't understand that there were 75 some million people who voted for what's happening in America & in the world right now.... totally agree. the thing i didn’t reveal above that I wanted to post an extreme perspective on something nuanced to see what would happen with scores. 🤠 generally i think attraction is complex.... - ballz2dwallz...
I think keeping this tension and question alive in our awareness, and then running experiments that come from staying present with the tension (desire for the fun/safe/curated, and idea that it won’t last), will help it last longer, and potentially give us insight into... Love this invitation, and I'll bite. Hmm, first place my mind goes: optics feels like an instance inside a larger category of taking the social fabric as something to be manipulated, to try to cause people to think particular things or feel particular ways about you or some...