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Today I reunited with my Jungian therapist after his two-month absence.
Today I reunited with the Jungian analyst, R., who I’ve been working with since October. The two-week absence that he had planned in mid-April stretched into six weeks when his spouse had a major medical event overseas.... Relatefulness vs Circling
I've been discovering distinctions and felt-senses of Relatefulness that seem to differ from how I know Circling. My short catch phrase is: "If meditation is the art of being, and Circling is the art of being-with, then Relatefulness is the art of being-human-with." I like this,... Shadows of personal growth culture: weaponized toolkits
I think everyone here has probably experienced weaponized NVC. What are some of the other things you see "weaponized" that annoy you? eg: Weaponized "Commitment to connection": there are bunch of versions of this: i can’t heal myself without you, my feelings are dependent on your... - josefine...
It reminds me how us surviving so much conflict has me feel like I trust us to get through almost anything - and it also conflicts my desire to be conflict avoidant (I believe we could have just not had a lot of conflict). Do you think conflict/storming serves a purpose?... - annabeth...
How to hold healthy boundaries with people we love but deeply disagree with
I have decided not to travel to attend a dear friend’s wedding because it’s happening less than a week before the election, and my friend very publicly brings their political opinions in ways I disagree with, ways that play into unhealthy and potentially dangerous interpersonal... say i’ve got a friend Andy who wants to spend every day together hanging out. I like Andy so much that I want to see him once a month. Let’s say I compromise my boundaries and I hang with him a few times a week. I’m not showing up honestly as me, so who is andy connecting with?... Hey Nat. that retreat was quite a lot. I’m really glad I did it. I did not experience Jhanna, but I experiened tremendous openings to more enjoyment, more softness, and increased ability for gratitude, forgiveness, appreciation.... - renee...
My specific thread was difficult for me. A woman I had just met earlier that day said she felt connected to me because we share a "latin america connection" but distant from me because I support genocide. I completely froze when she said that word.... Thank you Pete, I feel honored by your recognition of what I've come to call my practice of Secure Detachment. What I see in your comment is a desire to bridge relational assumptions.... One thing I notice about Circling, if person A offers person B something, person A is (at least culturally) more likely to ask, "What's underneath it for you?", as if they're asking, "What's this cocaine cut with?" It's rarely believed in Circling if the underneath isn't... So this is the kind of negativity I'll call negativity. A negative interaction for me is one that continually references what is missing or wrong, seeking or finding holes in the connection/cohesion/argument/understanding and expanding on where we don't agree rather than tracking... - annabeth...
Dates with an uber-green guy...
Tonight is my second date with a guy who’s the head of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion for the Austin school district. I enjoy him a lot, but EVERYTHING is identity for him. I brought up integral theory on our first date and he’s super interested....