I've been thinking a lot lately about four words:
Victim → Survivor → Thriver → Driver
I've started using them to describe the arc I'm trying to make sense of in my own life.
But here's the thing:
It's not an arc.
At least not a nice, clean one....
Hello All!
So nice to find a social app that has sustenance to it!
A little background- I'm soon to be 45, engaged to my childhood love, have 3 LARGE boys, some college (but intentionally self-educated) and speaking only from direct experiences....
It really depends on the situation.
Sometimes, stepping away “for mental health” can be little more than an excuse for avoidance. For example, I once knew a 23‑year‑old who lived in permanent vacation mode: no bills, part‑time work, daily marijuana use, and daily watching of...
I'm an alcoholic and addict. Gratitude for me comes at the end of the day, remembering all that I have been through that day, and realizing that I choose to get through it clean and sober....
I want to add, I see why celebrations can feel like betrayal when people are dying from drugs and homelessness. That moral anguish is valid to me. Celebrations look like negligence when children in our cities are suffering from things we should be able to fix....
I understand what you're saying, but in my experience when someone is in active addiction they usually are too far gone to know whether or not they want it....
I suppose in nearly every instance of life there is the potential for the formation of addiction. Whether it be drugs, video games, alcohol, porn, sugar, gambling, tobacco etc.....
My personal experiences with addiction have been painful and complicated. My mother, who is now deceased, was a pedophile. Later in life, my husband struggled with video game addiction, though he eventually recovered. Well, I struggled more than he did!...
Hey y'all,
Last week RFK Jr. (himself in recovery from heroin addiction) was grilled in a Senate hearing about his proposal to build "wellness farms" across the US, modeled on an italian community called San Patrignano.
People you'd expect to agree end up on opposite sides....
8/31/25
Objectively this process is going great.
Emotionally I'm starting to feel an edginess creep in. The edginess is the sensory equivalent of a nearby fire alarm blaring nonstop for 36 hours straight with no sign of stopping....